This is going to be a completely subjective opinion.
WHich I want to get this out of the way right away because I know most of us are looking for a magic bullet....
....a single THING we haven't tried yet that's going to rocket launch our lives from bland pointless monotony, to epic high-impact high-energy constant sexy b-roll mode.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm going to chalk this article full of those sweet sweet tips and tricks that will get you living in B-Roll mode.... and I do recommend you try things that you're not already incorporating.
The point of this article though is to invite you to make a choice.
The "meaning of life" is entirely up to you.
It's whatever YOU decide it is.
What we need to do is give you the power to choose.
To choose with clarity and maintain that choice through confidence.
>>First, some philosophy.
How do you decide what makes a life worth living?
How do you decide on your "why"?
It's going to be built both on objective success, and rising out of the ashes of trauma and mental health battles.
You will choose many different opinions on your journey to finding the answer, and that's part of the philosophy you need to understand.
Is it happiness? This trends consistently as the answer given by most people.
Most people however aren't living fulfilled.
Consider that a life lived in the pursuit of happiness, is one where you may find happiness, or you may not.
You could totally fail to find happiness, and thus your life is a complete failure.
You may find happines, or at least experience happiness from time to time..... and yet beyond your own personal experience your life was essentially meaningless.
Now that doesn't mean that a life spent pursuing happiness doesn't include service.
That may be a big part of what makes you happy, and that's true fulfillment. Though if building partnerships, serving your community, influencing humanity to become more compassionate isn't consiously part of your outlook...
You may not be much more than a burden to the people around you, and at worst you could be a real problem for them. People like that aren't well remembered, if they're remembered at all.
If you spend a life in pursuit of service however, it is nearly impossible not to provide some value to the world if you try. Even if you don’t reach the goals that you set yourself… Someway, somehow, you are adding value to the people you seek to serve.
Now this could mean, on its own, that the meaning of life is the pursuit of service entirely.
No room for purpose at all for individuality.
>>A legendary mindset comes from a marraige of both.
And infact the people living the most fulfilled lives typcially have a deep commitment to adding value and helping others, which provides them a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose....
...and that energy encourages new ideas, creativity, and personal exploration.
Finding purpose in life is a similar 2-step process to beating depression.
You need a philosophy that breeds personal power paired with a set of positive energetic habits that position you in a place that you can take action.
I'd like to make a wild suggestion... that fulfillment and real confidence are basically the same thing.
When someone lives with a standard sense of confidence, they're fulfilled. When a person feels fulfilled, you can bet that they'd also agree that they're a confident person.
Fulfimment is based on HOW YOU FEEL.
You will feel fully engaged when you:
Consider using the Japanese Ikigai method.
Ikigai is a Japanese concept that combines the two words "iki," meaning life, and "gai," meaning worth. It is often translated as "a reason for being" or "a reason to wake up in the morning." Ikigai represents the intersection of four elements: what you love, what you are good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for. The idea is that finding the balance and overlap of these four aspects can lead to a sense of purpose and fulfillment in life.
In simpler terms, ikigai is about discovering and pursuing activities that bring joy, align with your skills, contribute to the needs of the world, and can sustain you economically.
It's a holistic approach to finding meaning and satisfaction in your daily life by identifying the areas where your passions, talents, societal needs, and financial stability converge.
Draw out this chart in a notebook and do the work to fill it out.
Don't skimp on this stuff.
I want to stress that I've beaten severe depression... and helped many of my clients do the same.
>>You can feel good. You can feel fulfilled. No matter how fucked up or destroyed your life feels right now, you begin by adjusting your perspective. There are things to live for, you can do something about it, and ulitmately you can create whatever life you desire.
You do deserve to. If you have to, force yourself to adjust this inner perspective.
You can start with this video on adjusting your subconsious mind:
If you'd like more on the philosophy behind this stuff, leave me a comment here or on my socials.
So let's go deeper.
We've established you need a WHY.
You need to believe that whatever the vision is you're creating, you're deserving of it.... and you need to practice reminding yourself of it even when the going get's tough.
- You need an absolute confidence in yourself, and your path.
This ability to "flip the switch" that is your motivation and confidence is where the practice comes in.
It is a radical shift of mind. For some of us this can be daunting because what I'm saying here is really that it's an instantaneous feeling difference.
You have the ability to do this right here, and now.
However this is the act of completely changing who you are in the moment, which will feel wrong at first.
Just like being dropped into a brand new humans life would feel wrong, even if you upgraded bodies.... incomes.... relationships.... even if this new life had a better version of life in every catagory....
It's the death of the old self that feels bad.
Eventually you will be able to do this comfortably at lighting speed, and see your life improve in double-digit incriments seemingly on a daily basis.
Right now however, we want to take the incrimental approach.
Spirit and Body
1. A spiritual practice, because the decision we made together earlier in this article can't be a one-and-done. It's a life-long commitment. And dues must be paid daily.
We won't belabor this point becasue I realize we're hitting this concept over and over again. Do the ikigai above. Build a vision board and a personal constitution. Read them daily.
Whatever it is, build a routine that includes time every single day for uninterupted introspection and connection to your vision.
No one can tell you exactly how to do this. You need to make time everyday to try new tools and see what really resonates with you.
You can check out one of my secret trainings on "7 mental models of success" that breaks down a few of my most powerful methods. DM me on Instagram or send me an email saying "7 mental models" and I'll send it to you.
2. A physical practice, because thoughts come from feelings. If you feel like shit all the time, you're going to find it impossible to be optimistic and forward focused.
Symptoms of Low Dopamine and Serotonin:
- Persistent low mood
- Feelings of emptiness
- Lack of motivation
- Difficulty finding pleasure in activities
- Reduced ability to initiate or complete tasks
- Lack of interest in once-enjoyable activities
- Feelings of flatness
- Sense of apathy
- Emotional imbalance
- Changes in sleep patterns
Appetite and Digestion:
- Changes in appetite
- Digestive disturbances
- Disruption in overall sense of well-being
- Challenges in experiencing joy or satisfaction
Life in the 21st century is constantly beckoning us to destroy our natural positive hormone release mehcanisms.
Where once we would have recieved excitement from solving problems at work or in our passion projects, a dopamine-deprived brain feels only struggle.... and looks to vices rather than the challenge itself in order to find balance.
Where once the accomplishments garnered throughout the day to day, the week to week....... and major milestones in life would have yielded a massive sense of fulfilment.....
Now you're constantly looking toward the next best thing.
You CAN take back your mind, and you're going to do it through your body.
Regular exercise is shown to dramatically increase natural positive hormone production.
Good diet also plays a big role in positive brain-chemical production.
In the interest of simplicity, I'll give you a brief template to put in action right away.
|1. What's one 20-30 minute space you could designate to exercise everyday? (add this to your calendar)
|2. Do you have a fitness plan you can place here to make action-taking clear and easy? (if not, consider joining our jump-start program)
|3. How do you feel about the quality of your diet overall?
|4. Are you willing to track for 1-2 weeks in order to get the answers you need in order to adjust your diet?(Message me on social media or send me an email to get this tracking process started)
Write out these answers, and you should come out on the other side with an instantly applicable plan for taking daily action on your diet and your workouts, as well as powerful reflection information you can use to stay motivated.
Make no mistake.
Basic awareness with your diet and a simple fitness plan praticed daily will get you from 0 - to - hero within a year.
It's up to you to take the action necessary to make that happen.
See how this goes full circle?
It's a vision that's crystal clear, and more important than anything to create.
It's created by the daily action, the daily reflection, the daily optimization.
That daily action-machine gives you the results you need to decide how the vision..... most importantly how YOU show up in the vision.... evolves.
If this resonated with you, drop a comment and say hello on social media!